Being a Good Parenting, Heart to Heart

By: S. Wara Dewantoro

The new couple of the age, more feel confuse how manage their children earlier. They do with their feeling of they heart. Whereas the strategic of parenting to mold their children knowing the science early. Heart to heart is the strategic of parents to plug in their children. There are some ways how being a good parenting.

1. Lets your children know what you do and involved in your children’s life

Communication between children and parents need quality of frequency. How make the good respond, it’s should be of well knowledgeable. Lets your children proud what the parents do, maybe you can invite them go to your work place. Get the effect of this communication. Certainly your children also will tell everything about themselves and can help accomplish their problem. Positioning as a friend, teacher, parents is need skill to arrange. When your children need you as a friend you must work hard to involved their life. Know their mentally and physically. In one time, we suggest you, to go a long day to talking about things.

2. Loving but not too loving

When you loving it does not mean you give everything that they need. What they want, you must buy. No, it is not good expression. It can be increase your children go to expectations or material possessions. Giving them what they should be get, like a consequence of achievement, diligence or discipline.

3. Establish and set rules but don’t bit their independence

The rules for your children behavior must be applied earlier. It is useful when they going to be mature. They can manage their live, organization, job, and education. They can stand alone and survive of living. There are some question that you must be answer when the night. “Where is my child, who is their friend, what is my child doing?” Discipline is need firmness. There is award and punishment. But, remember don’t bit their independence what their decided, during its good and not run into badness. You also develop their sense of self-control and self direction. Knowing activate also educated daily. Avoid the harsh discipline because it makes distance between you and your children.

4. Explain your rules or decisions and be consistent

The communication and expression in rules must be known by your children. Let they know. And saying heart to heart and with awareness well. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it. The consistency of establish the rules is start from 1-5 years, 6-12 years, 12-up to. Make the different rules. Identify your non-negotiable. “If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Make sure your rule is besides home age of children.

5. Treat your child with respect and good expression

The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely and kindly. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others.